Saturday, April 3, 2010
Is it wrong to ... ?
Feeling a little relieved when a ' perfect ' friend fails.
"Feeling relieved in this situation is not wrong, but the belief that your friend was perfect in the first place is. People may try to hide their mistakes and imperfections from you, but everyone is only human and everyone has human flaws and failings. If you are feeling relieved in this situation it suggests that you believe that you are somehow more flawed then your ' perfect ' friend. You enjoy their fall from grace because it makes you feel better about yourself."
No one is perfect, so don't be so hard on yourself.
Feeling guilty for making decision against what everyone wanted you to do.
"Guilty feelings are caused by unhelpful thinking patterns and having unrealistic rules for yourself, for example: ' I should do what others want. ' Everyone's entitled to make their own decisions and even making the wrong decision can be a great learning experience. It's wrong to feel guilty in this situation as long as you were respectful to others when rejecting their suggestions."
You are entitled to live your own life and make your own mistakes. Decisions you make should be made for you and not anyone else.
Desperately wanting people's approval
"Most people want others to like and approve of them. This is absolutely normal and okay, however it is wrong to want others approval so much that you are willing to do things that are not genuine to you to please them, or you're willing to sacrifice your own priorities, wants and needs to meet other people's expectations"
If you feel like you left your identity at the door years ago, then it's time to rediscover the REAL you.No, we're not saying you need to buy a round-the-world ticket in order to 'find yourself', but just try to remember that being a people pleaser to the detriment of your own identity can be damaging to you.
Taken from, Viva Magazine ' Is it wrong to ... ?' article.
Posted by A at 9:17 PM